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Meditations on Oxytocin IV


In other words: we need more woman, real women, pregnant woman, moms, real people who love, give, who give birth and live it the relaxed way, by trusting, letting go and letting become, by gibing space to another instead of filling the space up by oneself and better even, filling the other spaces up with oneself as well by being present and stepping with ones actionist nerve wracking behavior and speed into the others spaces.


Let’s transfer our meditation results about oxytocin to society and birth in our modern age.

Repetition: Oxytocin is just a name. We think it’s a molecule, a hormone. But what does that actually man? “Oxytocin” is more than a molecule. Its material aspect is only accessible with analytical, biochemical, laboratory processes, and then, interpreted based on models and theories = the molecule aspect of oxytocin is just statistics, something that we can’t really observe. So, what is it, accessible to everyone with our usual senses? We do have phenomena of Oxytocin that we can observe. Its actual appearance is: “the birth midwife”, it being the ally for becoming woman (the female, also foe man!), the dark and the letting go feeling of the unknown, trustingly obscure but beautiful. The Phenomena of oxytocin are the “not being in control”, but letting go and letting become, the stepping back and allowing your innermost animate nature, the wide fertile soul’s nature, to do its thing. Letting things happen beyond our conscious had-like thinking. We all have this inner guide in us- but, somehow, most of the time neglect it or even fight it. WE lost the ability to trust and to not being in control – as something positive!


So, where are we I these meditations? When looking at it I this way- “oxytocin” becomes something like a code word, a name for something qualitative, a feeling, a specific way of being human. This way of being is not a specialized thing, its a a base line, a root, a chthonic part of us, which in reality is a whole realm and surprisingly big part of us. A part, usually unknown that we are not aware of.


Oxytocin has many “bodily”, holistic, body, mind and should incorporating expressions: which is relaxation, letting go, trustingly, lovingly letting things happen beyond our control.

Enough repetitions… lets step forward…


Our today’s society is just the opposite of that. All out values are opposing this. Letting go and letting become beyond our conscious control is of no importance in no part of society. Values that we have are the exact opposite of “oxytocin: be on time, be here, be present, perform, deliver, don’t miss anything, take what’s yours, be in front, concentrate, be better than the other, be able to give everything, Olympics!, be better, fitter, happier, faster, cleverer, aim for it, hit it, shoot it down and grip it, be awake and alert!, don’t waste time, make you self perfect, look good, focus, be in control, don’t lose it, common, get on with it, don’t be lazy, don’t let yourself go, be always a step ahead of the other, competition is the rule, higher, better, faster, be clever, smart, intelligence is everything, grades are everything, be either number one or no-one, in the face, face to face…, be awake!


We lost, almost completely lost a world, that complements the above, which is, or possibly might be equally important, maybe even more important, because to every waking there need to be a sleep, for every action there is a pause and to action, we need regeneration and gaining strength again, every performance needs preparation and recreation afterwards, only together they work. For daytime focuses consciousness, we need night-time, letting go- which is also a certain consciousness, but a rather sleeping, dreaming one.


Oxytocin is this big magic, dark, female essential element I us, that is erased out of our culture. Woman should be like men. If they are successful, they are like man, or a female male? Ha! They have no place here in the 21st century success and self-optimizing culture.

Our society goes mad, is obsessed with focus, with awake with action and performance! Everyone seems to know that this can’t go well and can’t go on forever. But its all getting even faster and tougher, the answer to all problems seems to be always: be faster, do more, be better!


Wouldn’t a better solution to our problem be: we need more oxytocin! - A society with more feminine qualities, more “night-time”, more no control and trusting?


In other words: we need more woman, real women, pregnant woman, moms, real people who love, give, who give birth and live it the relaxed way, by trusting, letting go and letting become, by gibing space to another instead of filling the space up by oneself and better even, filling the other spaces up with oneself as well by being present and stepping with ones actionist nerve wracking behavior and speed into the others spaces.

And who can teach us to reintegrate oxytocin into our lives and society? Woman, pregnant woman, a natural birth!


Staffa at evefall – truly a place of the dark, the feminine, initiation into "oxytozin"


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